Life Lessons: The First Cow

Content originally published in annarbor.comin 2009. 

My son has been very interested in asking questions of late. I suppose that’s not so bad since he is five; however it is the nature of the questions that is of a little concern to me. His most common questions revolve around babies and specifically “Mom where do babies come from?”

I know its normal behavior, and I don’t have difficulties answering most questions - but he is 5 - FIVE! He doesn’t even begin school for a few weeks, so where are these questions coming from? Is it normal for five-year-olds to NEED to know this info? It feels a little too early to answer this question with any substance. Luckily, as coincidence would have it, he seems satisfied with the vaguest of answers.

My M.O. has been to ask him “Well what do you think?” or simply say “Babies come from their mommy’s tummies.”

The other day though, as we were driving down I-94, he asked me again, “Mom where do babies come from?” “Well where do you think they come from?” “I know it takes a mommy and a daddy and the doctor cut me out of your tummy.” (C-section for both kids wouldn’t you know…) “Yes honey that’s right. Did you get the answer you needed?” “Yes.” As I breathe a HUGE sigh of relief...

There is silence in the car, until we pass a large truck hauling cattle. “Mom where are they taking the cows?”

I have to stop at this, because again, how much information is TOO much information for a five-year-olds brain. “Well Zach, sometimes cows become food for us. You know that, right?”

“Yes.”

“That is where we get steak and hamburgers.”

“So someone is gonna cut them up? Won’t that hurt?”

Again I have to dig deep for the answers, thinking quickly for something that makes sense - Got it. “Well sweetie, the cows are asleep and they don’t feel it.”

“Mom, did it hurt when I came out of your tummy?”

Damned my answers came back to haunt me - He’s back to asking about babies due to my C-sections. “No sweetie, I wanted you and your sister so badly it didn’t hurt me.”

Now comes the rapid fire, on the chopping block questions...

“So where do baby cows come from?”

“They come out of their mommy’s tummies.”

“So they are like us?”

“Yes sweetie, they are called mammals - They come out of their mommy’s tummy and drink her milk so they can grow.”

“But where do they COME from?”

I’m now getting frustrated and I sense his frustrations as well as I ask, “WHERE do you think they came from?”

“No, MOM, I mean the FIRST cow. Where did IT come from”

Now this stops me. To avoid any explanation of Creationism vs. Evolution to a five-year-old though, I opted for the easiest answer for my son to grasp - I suppose one might argue that I saw my out…”Well sweetie, God created the first cow.”

There is now silence in the car, complete, blessed SILENCE. He seemed to accept that answer - Thankfully he hasn’t asked about the first human, or asked again about babies and their "specifics", but I have a sinking suspicion that I am going to need simplified answers sooner rather than later…

But, he’s only FIVE!!! Isn’t that a bit early to want to know about the human reproductive cycle?!

Independence Day Parades

While thinking of fireworks, a day off, grilled burgers and family fun, Independence Day is also host to several Ann Arbor area parades on July 4. Here are a few 4th of July parades to consider.

ANN ARBOR:

Annual Fourth of July Parade
Downtown Ann Arbor starting at 10:00 a.m.
Hosted by Ann Arbor Jaycees

Kid's decorate your bikes, trikes and wagons for a chance to participate in the parade featuring floats, walking groups, musical groups, and much more. For more information call 734.681.0577 email parade@a2jaycees.org.

NORTHVILLE

Independence Day Parade
Downtown beginning at 10:00 a.m.
Sponsored by the Northville Community Foundation and St. Mary Mercy Hospital.

Find music, floats, marching bands, clowns, children’s characters, vintage and classic Cars, bike and pet parades and more. After head over to the Mill Race (215 Griswold St., Northville) to continue your 4th of July celebrating from 11:00 a.m. – 4:00 p.m. Find a Civil War encampment while enjoying your family picnic. Docent-guided tours of the historical buildings will be available for the day.

PLYMOUTH-CANTON

Independence Day Parade, Celebration and BBQ
Sponsored by VVA Chapter 528.
Check the website for more details.

YPSILANTI

Ypsilanti Independence Day Parade
Starting in Depot Town at E. Cross and N. River beginning at 11:00 a.m.
The parade is sponsored by American Legion Post 282 and the Ypsilanti Jaycees.

Kids can decorate a bike, wagon, or tricycle to lead the Ypsilanti District Library's bookmobile in the parade. Children must meet at 10:30 a.m. and need to be accompanied by an adult if they are younger than 10. To pre-register, call 734.482.4110 ext. 1316.

WHITMORE LAKE:

Parade of Lights
July 3, 2011 - 10:00 p.m.
View the a lighted boat parade like no other. Boats begin the parade in front of Mac’s Marina (9876 Main St., Whitmore Lake).

Annual 4th of July Parade
Downtown on Main Street starting at noon
Find patriotic displays featuring emergency vehicles, fire trucks, floats, and decorated bicycles, trikes and Big Wheels!

Creating a Crown of Flowers for my Daughter

Republished from an annarbor.com article in 2009

It was a perfect morning - I had just dropped my son at day-camp, the sun was shining, the birds were singing and I was down to one child for the day. What more can a gal ask for?

I decided to take my daughter on a nature adventure of sorts - Harvesting blackberries in my friends open field. It was a grand time, however as it often happens, mom did all the work in picking the berries. My daughter did all of the eating. We did however manage to come home with 2 very large buckets of the juicy black pearly gems. Enough to munch on the spot AND make luscious deserts and jams at home.

I noticed though that my daughter was very preoccupied by all of the wildflowers throughout the field - With the rain the past few days, they was flowers of every shade of white, yellow, purple, and even a few blues sprinkled throughout the field. She was having a grand time picking at each blossom. As luck would have it, I had also recently read an article about creating a Crown of Wildflowers.

"Would you like to work on a special project with mommy today?" I asked.

And so we sauntered home, berries in hand (and all over my daughter's shirt) with lovely bouquet of wildflowers laying on the seat next to me.

It was much easier than I anticipated - making the wildflower crown. And the results were stunning - If I do say so myself. My daughter felt like a little princess, and ran around for much of the day wearing her treasure.

I didn't get to prepping the berries yet, but that's OK. Taking a crack at the slower pace, and enjoying my time with my daughter made for the perfect Mother/Daughter memory!

And so I ask again, what more can a gal ask for...

There are fields, upon fields of flowers blooming throughout Ann Arbor right now. Why not try and create your own wildflower crown for your child. For an hour of your time, it's a memory that can not be forgotten... I created a short instructional video on "Making A Wildflower Crown" too, so that no one need wade into uncharted territory.

Kids in Hot Cars

This morning a friend of mine posted an article on social media that she had read. It was about a woman needing to place her left shoe on the seat next to her child in a car seat so she would not forget the child. A comment was made that the idea was "helpful" and that it meant the driver would not get far without a shoe, and therefore would never forget their baby. Forget their baby.

Apparently it's becoming an all to common mistake in the U.S. too. According to this Washington Post article, leaving a baby in a hot car happens 15-25 times each year in the U.S. My friend commented that "this (was) the most ridiculous thing (she had) ever heard." and I happen to agree. I simply do not understand the need to put something "important" in the backseat so a child (something important!) is not left behind. Are we THAT distracted as a society?

I have read about several inventions to help parents remember too: This one from an engineer mom, this piece of technology that texts an infant SOS, or this invention called Hot Seat developed by a teen. It still comes back to this one fact: People are leaving their infants and kids in hot cars. To die. To DIE. Why? Because they are too distracted?

What do you think of this all to common occurrence? Why is this happening?

I know that this will likely spark many comments, but please if you feel so inclined to comment, please be respectful of others commenting.

Long Road Trips and Personalized Road Trip Boxes

Keep the kids busy on your next road trip
with personalized boxes filled with
small trinkets and snacks.

Summer time and the livin' is easy. The sun is shining and everyone requests time off. It’s vacation! For us and countless others, it’s the end-of-summer push before school begins. It’s road trip time!

Most of you agree that the proper planning is a necessity for any vacation, but let’s focus on a very small and very specific task that needs more attention: planning the kids' "car travel kit." The point is to keep them occupied for endless hours so that we don't hear endless rounds of "When are we gonna get there?” I never guarantee myself endless hours of quiet. After all, my kids are still young, but I try.

So what's in my car kit? I usually include a DVD player and movies, special road trip music, fresh crayons and a doodle pad, coloring books, books and snacks. I also like to have items that are “fresh” and new for the kids — items that they haven't seen before sometimes will occupy lots of their attention.

I began my quest to occupy the kids a few years ago when driving five hours north for a long weekend. I started by grabbing two shoebox-sized plastic bins, and, with decorative pens in hand, I personalized them for my kiddos. After that I went about finding small trinkets and goodies that the kids could have. My only rule was that they could do whatever they wanted with the goodies, but once they were gone, there was no more.

At first I included toys from fast food kids meals, small treats and pocket-sized coloring books. Bins have also included small trinkets for each of the kids, a small Lego kit or a Polly Pocket, a kids map of the United States I got free with purchase from my local Marathon gas station, a Where's Waldo 3-D poster from Wendy's and a pack of gum. I'll admit, even now my kids enjoy doing "something" so a good book or magazines are often included. When I took my Girl Scouts on a trip to Mackinac Island recently, even THEY enjoyed doing the road trip games. We played an awesome road trip scavenger hunt that went on ALL weekend!

I look for items throughout the year, as I find that's the best way to prepare. I find inexpensive trinkets at Michael's and or in Target's $1 bins. A few months ago, I found that The Rocket in downtown Ypsilanti was a great place to find novelty items perfect for road trips; I bought individual re-positional sticker activity books there. By planning ahead, I am always prepared — I actually have items tucked away for future trips.

So what do you give your children to occupy them on long road trips? What are their favorite items? Is there anything special that is a must-have for your children in the car?

I’m heading off into the sunset with the car stuffed to the gills and the car's top carrier overflowing. The kids will be happily occupied for hours, allowing me to enjoy the ride. One can hope anyway, right?


This was originally published in annarbor.com.